Self-care: It’s not selfish, it’s survival

Yesterday I had the privilege of teaching a self-care workshop to a group of wonderful human beings who gathered for a monthly meeting of the Healing Cooperative – Houston. The Cooperative, led by Susan Taylor-Gol, a Reiki master and art therapy teacher, is an amazing avenue for holistic health practitioners to share their knowledge and for people to learn from them about different healing techniques and modalities. I was fortunate to be invited by Susan to share my health story (you can read about it here) and my current holistic self-care regimen with doTERRA essential oils.

I was extremely nervous, as it was my first time presenting about self-care and this was a group that was already well-versed in all things holistic health. We started off with a short loving-kindness meditation on the self, inhaling doTERRA Balance Grounding Blend and repeating “May I be healthy. May I be happy. May I be loved. May I be at peace.” The Grounding Blend is really incredible for anchoring the individual in the present moment, and opening the awareness to the now, the current environment. And since we had some serious topics to cover, it just seemed like the perfect oil to use.


I really wanted to acknowledge everyone for being there. In the modern world self-care is seen as selfish, almost sinful. Our internal judges constantly make us feel bad for taking the time for ourselves, and not doing that other load of laundry, cooking that other dish, having another read of an article draft, etc. (you know what your hang-up is). In order to make everyone feel like they’re doing the right thing by coming to a self-care workshop I shared this piece of ancient wisdom, brought to us through The Secret book:


Unless you fill yourself up first, you have nothing to give anybody. Therefore it is imperative that you tend to your joy first. People are responsible for their own joy. When you tend to your joy and do what makes you feel good, you are a joy to be around and you are a shining example of to every child and every person in your life. When you are feeling joy you don’t even have to think about giving. It is a natural overflow.

This quote really resonated with everyone; I even saw a few teary eyes. It’s it crazy how difficult it is for us to even hear and accept a message of self-love and self-care, let alone put it into practice and live it! Proves once again how much we need workshops like these. I love the work Christine Arylo is doing in this vein: she is the author of “Madly in Love with Me” and “Choosing Me Before We”, and has been called “the Queen of self-love”. About 10 years ago she established February 13th as the International day of Self-Love. It is celebrated the day before Valentine’s Day for a reson: it convey the same idea that you need to love yourself first, before you can give your love to someone else.


During the workshop we talked about five levels of self-care: 1) physical body; 2) emotional level; 3) removing limiting beliefs; 4) connecting to the divine (whatever you call this power); 5) fulfilling your life’s purpose. We only had touched on physical and emotional level, turning it into a fun interactive activity. I had everyone write one physical self-care goal and one emotional self-care goal for 2017, and then we went through essential oil recommendations for each attendee. We talked about digestive health (Fennel, Coriander, Lemon); respiratory health (Peppermint, Eucalyptus; immune health (Orange, Clove, Cinnamon); healthy restful sleep (Lavender, Vetiver, Cedarwood); and hormonal health (Clary Sage, Lavender, Geranium).

Some of the most amazing discoveries came when we moved onto the emotional level of healing. We talked about Rosemary and it’s ability to help through major life’s transitions, and how Thyme, the Oil of release and Forgiving, can help one let go of a long suppressed grudge and anger. People were able to ask questions about personal health goals, and get personalized oil recommendations, and interact with each other, and get clear abut their self-care goals for 2017.

I am so grateful to Susan for allowing me to come and share information about essential oils, and meet some wonderful people along the way. If you would ever like me to come and do a workshop on self-care with essential oils for your family/club/professional group/hobby group, please contact me through the contact form or you can simply comment on this post! Looking forward to connecting with you!

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